Transparency is a must

Food for thought C: "If you discover after an issue or two that the lady or the man you marry had a child while in college and didn't tell you before and after marriage will you distrust your partner for the act or react negatively? Ladies and gentlemen, I want you to understand foremost that he or she didn't disclose the past for the fear of losing your relationship. One it is not right not to be open about the past but it is not also an issue at this particular point of time. I do know that if an armed robbers come into your house and forcefully rapped your wife at a gun point, you won't say she is unfaithful to you, and that act or incident will reduce your love for her. If truly you love the person you marry deeply, the past becomes immaterial no matter what is discovered later, it is better. However, it is better to be sincere and open from the start if the man or woman is yours by divine arrangements he or she will love you the more and where possible take in the child and trained him/her with love. The past honestly should not be used as a yard stick because the person may have successfully put past behind him or her remorsefully so don't dwell on it or make it a recurring decimal in your discussions. True love will always overlook the past and concentrate on the present and future. A prostitute of some years back maybe be a sincerely born again child of God who had be forgiven by God made whole in the blood of Jesus Christ, who then are you to hold on to her forgiven past. When God himself says in Hebrews 8:12 For I will be merciful to their unrighteousness, and their sins and their iniquities will I remember no more. Whatever is kept away from your

knowledge before and after marriage is not meant for your consumption and if you eventually discover handle it with utmost maturity, and decency of character. The past mistakes are in the past and should be left alone in the past because there is nothing you and I can do about it. Love they covereth all things. Don't destroy the home you have laboured hard to build because of a single mistake of your partner either of the past or the moment. The Lord will be your wisdom at this juncture of your marital journey.