(1) Fondness:-..... If you are not fond of the person you claim to love, you do not want people to know that you are involved with him, you are only after behind closed doors affairs and you only love him when he receives his salary, then it it not a genuine love.
(2) Patience:-..... Is your partner pestering you for sex? Has he said he cannot wait and threaten to drop you? Do not give in. That is to tell you. If you give in to him. He will still drop you anyway.
(3) Submission:-...... Love does not parade itself, is not puffed up" 1cor 13:14. Love is already to accede to the wishes of the other party. It is not proud, it does into parade itself. It is not waiting to say, " You said it" if not you". It is ready to say let's go ahead if that is how you want it.
(4) Commitment:-..... True love involved commitment, spirit, soul and body. It gives everything to the relationship, write letters,send emails, make phone calls, give gifts,pay visits, share the plight of the partner, look forward to meeting and ready to call for reconciliation whenever there is misunderstanding. It is deeply committed to the other party.
(5) Sacrifice:-..... True love is only committed to the other party and also is ready to make sacrifices. In times of money and gifts.
(6) Giving :-.... For God so loved the world and gave us his only begotten son.... John 3:16 Love involved giving , true love emphasises giving, infatuation and lust emphasizes receiving. If you are in a relationship because of what you gain from it, then you are not in love. if you are involved with somebody who is only interested in receiving from you, then he or she is not in love with you. Love is not robber flee from parasitic lovers.
(7) Kindness:-..... Lobe suffer long and is kind 1cor 13:4. Kindness is the foundation of love. In fact, an author simply defines love as a kind action given to under serve people.
(8) Positive Thinking:-.... Thinks no evil 1cor 13:5. Love will never think of how to punish, revenge, beat the other party. True love will never think of pouring acid on estranged lovers. It will never imagine evil things.
(9) Forbearance:-..... Bears all things 1cor 13:7. There are two Bears in love. BEAR and FORBEAR. He is ready to bear the inadequacies of the other partner and forbear errors and mistakes, therefore nagging is never fond on true love. If you discover that your partner always nag on virtually everything you do, you better be careful. Love does not nag but infatuation does.
(10) Trust:-..... Belive all things " Love believes all things because it has absolute trust in the other party. If you do not trust that lady, stop wasting your time with her. If that man does not trust you , it shows he is not in love with you.
(11) Openness:- ... True love is no secretive, it is open. It tells the other party about her past, no matter how ugly it may be.
(12) Meekness and Gentleness:-..... True love is meek and gentle, it is not wicked. It is not aggressive, and is not envious. A man slaps you in anger during courtship and still claim to love you. If you go ahead to marry him, you have given yourself cheaply to a lifetime of beating and bashing. Love is meek, gentle, not easily provoked, open to correction.
If all these criteria are missing in your love affairs, I am afraid it is not love. Is either infatuation or lust. Beware ! Do not rush into marriage and live miserable life. Open your eyes and be wise.
Marriage involves both WEDDING and WELDING.
Wedding is for one day while welding is for a lifetime. Wedding involves joining of hands in the public while welding involves joining of heart in the secret. It involves fusion of two different personalities to form another distinct personality in the presence of God. It takes hearts to weld two different iron together; it takes love to weld two different people together. It takes love to have FUSION without a JOINT.
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