Transparency is a must

Food for thought C: "If you discover after an issue or two that the lady or the man you marry had a child while in college and didn't tell you before and after marriage will you distrust your partner for the act or react negatively? Ladies and gentlemen, I want you to understand foremost that he or she didn't disclose the past for the fear of losing your relationship. One it is not right not to be open about the past but it is not also an issue at this particular point of time. I do know that if an armed robbers come into your house and forcefully rapped your wife at a gun point, you won't say she is unfaithful to you, and that act or incident will reduce your love for her. If truly you love the person you marry deeply, the past becomes immaterial no matter what is discovered later, it is better. However, it is better to be sincere and open from the start if the man or woman is yours by divine arrangements he or she will love you the more and where possible take in the child and trained him/her with love. The past honestly should not be used as a yard stick because the person may have successfully put past behind him or her remorsefully so don't dwell on it or make it a recurring decimal in your discussions. True love will always overlook the past and concentrate on the present and future. A prostitute of some years back maybe be a sincerely born again child of God who had be forgiven by God made whole in the blood of Jesus Christ, who then are you to hold on to her forgiven past. When God himself says in Hebrews 8:12 For I will be merciful to their unrighteousness, and their sins and their iniquities will I remember no more. Whatever is kept away from your

knowledge before and after marriage is not meant for your consumption and if you eventually discover handle it with utmost maturity, and decency of character. The past mistakes are in the past and should be left alone in the past because there is nothing you and I can do about it. Love they covereth all things. Don't destroy the home you have laboured hard to build because of a single mistake of your partner either of the past or the moment. The Lord will be your wisdom at this juncture of your marital journey.

Hot Tempered man...

It will be most unfortunate for a woman to marry a man who can not control his temper in anger, Ephesians 4:26 says be ye angry and sin not, it will be a worst mistake and serious calamity of the highest order for a woman to marry a man who is hot tempered. The day a man lift up his hand against the wife he marries is the day he ceases to have a wife in his home but a flat mate. No woman could be most unfortunate than the one who marries a man who is never happy at her progress, who is envious of his wife success and seeks to retard or mitigate against the success of his wife. Some men with egoistic evil mind cannot stand their wives doing better than them in life, such a husband is satanic and an enemy. A man who can not provide for the needs of his wife the Bible says is worst than an unbeliever, a man who drinks, smokes, and womanizes and would hardly ever spend quality time with his wife has made the wife a widow. Such women are not only unlucky but are also aggressive in the home and in the society in general. An unfortunate woman in position of authority is likely to be hostile & very unfriendly. A man who does not understand that his wife is not a perfect being and prone to mistakes and is not ready to accommodate, tolerate and overlook the individual differences is an error and an apology. A woman who marries a man who can't stay with her without complaints is an unfortunate wife. A woman who marries a weakling man is an unfortunate woman. Finally, a man who starves his wife of sex has made her a wounded soul and mind.

So terrible

One of the terrible thing that can happen to a man on earth is for him to marry his enemy as a wife. A wife becomes an enemy when she is not submissive & contentious in all situations, she becomes an enemy when after she comes into your life your income and standard of living begin to dwindle, she is the worst enemy if she is always lying to the husband about everything, she is an enemy if she sees sex as an instrument of negotiations and battle tool in the home, how unlucky a man can be if he marries an enemy that does not want to see the husband's family members or friends around the man, a man who marries an enemy is not likely to live long. A wife who loves to keep malice with the husband is an enemy who out of bitterness can poison the man, a wife that flirts is an enemy of the highest order. It is better to marry your girl friend or a woman friend than to marry a woman based on infatuation called love. Love is not enough to sustain marriage but a friend will at all times Proverbs 17:17 says that a friend will not stop loving you no matter what happens or atrocities you may commit, a friend will not only stand by you in trouble but will be ready to go down with you in mud of life. However, the most difficult thing to find on earth is a true friend who will eventually becomes a lovely wife.

Comparison of Islamic and Christianity Dressing

Musilim ladies are better dressed than Christian ladies, the immoral fashions you see in church are never acceptable in mosque. The Christians ladies are more wayward in terms of social life. While I'm not making a case for Islamic ladies we must admit that the percentage of unmarried Christian ladies are higher than that of musilim ladies. It most common with Christian ladies to dress half naked in the name of civilization and fashion. Islam has over the years make very strong cases over the issues of imported western culture unchecked by Africa values. I think Pastors should join their Islamic cleric counterparts to wage war against immorality of our ladies.

Submissiveness is the key to marriage

Why Most Ladies Remain Single Even At An Expiring Age..
Firstly: is the confusion of choice, where a lady has many suitors she may become confused as to which of these suitors will be the best for her, what is needed here is prayer with fasting for God's leading.
Secondly: Some are too proud to accept the will of God for their lives, because the man at that particular time may not have all the lady's heart desires, or meet all the conditions of her dream man. Again this could make her loose the chance of getting married to the right person, and once a lady or man misses it at the start, this costly mistake will colour every aspect of her life. A lady is expected to follow her first mind and should not discuss this with all her friends, some of these issues are best dealt with in prayer.
Thirdly: Another reason why a lady may remain single is that of her beauty without manners, once a lady allows her beauty to get into her head she will find it difficult to be humble because she believes her beauty will last forever, no man marries a woman because she is flashy or beautiful, what every man is looking for in a woman is character, respect and good manners, not mary kay beauty, even when the right person comes she will be too busy with make up kits to recognize the divine presence. Fourtly: Bad company is another reason a lady may remain single for a long time, if a lady has friends who believed in clubbing and night life styles she will definitely have the problem of settling down with a man.
 ** Greed & over ambition could also be responsible for delayed marriage, if a lady has the habit of looking for a ready made man she may end up a loser at the end.
** Where a lady is not cultured, and well raised by her parents, and therefore cannot take care of a home, a man will cleverly disengaged from the relationship. No lady can use sex to hold a man down, not even pregnancy, every lady must know that marriage comes at a cost. You must be willing to pay the price of marriage because no man wants a rude and contentious woman for a wife.
**The Bible says it is better for a man to dwell in the wilderness than to dwell in a wide house with a brawling woman. A lady who is not ready to be submissive can't live under a man no matter how beautiful she is.
**Some are lazy and dirty these ones know that they are not wife materials and would rather go to the streets cover up their short comings which will later back fire on them. Therefore Ladies be humble so as to see a man that will build your own family with you on time.

The expectations of a woman.

Food for thought part B: What are the qualities a woman expects from a man in marriage, foremost, she wants to be able to trust the man, she wants 100% assurance of the man's love and attention. A woman wants to feel safe and protected by the man she marries, a woman expect the the man to be faithful sexually & morally, she wants him to be committed to her, and be gentle in all his approaches, no woman likes to be shouted at either in public or in private, hence no wise woman will argue with her husband in public or before visitors even when & where she knows that he is wrong, a woman does not like a man who raises his voice at her most especially in public, a does not expect the man to beat her for no reason, only a beast will raise his hand at a woman no matter what happens or that she may have done including bringing another man into her matrimonial bed, no woman expects her husband to beat for her such an action rather the man she should find out what is in their sexual life and amend the problem, the woman expect respect and honour from her husband, no woman likes it or expect her husband to look at another woman lustfully, or pay compliments to another woman's beauty in private or public this is totally unacceptable, a woman expect the man to be able to provide for her basic needs, feeding, clothing, cosmetics, footwear and above all pay very close attention to her hair, a woman does not expect a man to forget her Birthday, and the man is expected a month to her birthday to start making adequate preparations for her birthday, a woman expect surprises from a man, no woman likes to be abandoned in the home for the company of others, she expects the man to be with her in the kitchen, to be of help to her in all that she does, here a man who cannot employ a house help must be ready to wash his clothes and accessories and must also be of help to his wife in this regard, the domestic chores mopping of the floor, the dish, cleaning the the gass cooker are not exclusively jobs reserved for the woman a man is expected to be of help to his wife, a woman expect a man to pet her to sleep either by telling her a story, reading a story book to her, or singing her to sleep, a woman does not expect the man to pounce on her for sex rather she expects the man to lead her to it through a very long fore play to prepare her mind and body for the love making, a woman does not expect the man to get up from her or withdraw from her immediately after climax she wants the sensation to run through her completely before the man disengage from her, a woman expects a man to tell her every other minutes how much he loves her because she can't ever be tired of hearing that from the man's heart, a woman expect love messages, quick notes in her hand bags, under the pillow and hugs.

The expectations of a man.

Food for thought:.. What does a man expect from a woman in marriage, foremost, he wants total submission & respect from the woman he married, once a man is satisfied with the submissive spirit of a woman, the next on the line is 100% faithfulness sexually & morally& loyalty, if a woman could love a man with the above qualities she will be loved in return by the man with a unique sense of adoration, and he will always cherish, pamper & nurse her with a great tenderness, other qualities a man expects from a woman also includes quietness most especially in public, a porous woman is an embarrassments to her husband, worst still is a contentious woman who is unruly, rude, brawling& nagging one. A man expect a woman to be neat in& out, personal hygiene in terms of her undies, her tongue, and most especially her private part must shaved neatly 24/7, environmental cleanness, her bed linings, her kitchen, and ability to prepare good meals, a woman must be willing to help the husband manage his resources. Not to be extravagant in demand and spendings. If in a courtship the man discovered these qualities missing he will tactfully disengaged himself from the relationship no matter how fair and beautiful the lady may look because no man marries beauty but character. A man expects his wife to be romantic, sexually active, and not a bore on the bed, some women just lie down on the bed like a log of wood, nothing moves them, they are sort of impotent sexually this maybe due to over circumcision of the clitoris, in that case she should have clit intensifier Adam and Eve, a man expect his wife to be sexually alluring in the home, and not to forget herself and look old fashioned, you must remember what attracted you to the man in the first place, a man will begin to look for what is missing in his wife and marriage in another woman outside.